Conflict-what is it?
Conflict is a pervasive, inevitable and normal part of our lives. There are many resources available to assist in coping in this context, yet many do not appreciate the dynamic of conflict and their role within it. Each of us has our own personal reaction to conflict. Definition of Conflict There are many different definitions…
Christmas for separated families
Christmas should be a time of great excitement. Extended family gatherings, holiday time, the giving and receiving of special treats-all contribute to the anticipation of celebration and fun, relaxation and revitalisation! But it can also be a time of extreme stress, anxiety and dread. As an advisor and facilitator, it is the busiest time of…
Conflict Literacy-what is it?
As mediators and coaches interested in best practice, we work hard to develop and consolidate fundamental skills such as reframing, reflecting and summarizing, refraining from advising, being non-judgmental, impartial and even handed. We acquire knowledge to improve our practice regarding conflict dynamics and the identification of conflict types and ideas as to how to manage…
Parenting Plans-are they worth the paper they are written on?
In my discussions with professionals working with family disputes, many are reluctant to refer their clients to mediation on the basis of their experience that the agreements reached are not worth the paper they are written on. This demonstrates a lack of understanding of the nature and advantages of parenting plans, and the options available…
Bridging the gap in parenting understandings
I am often involved in assisting parents to work out an acceptable structure around the parenting arrangements, to enable them both to support the child moving from one household to the other, and to promote meaningful time for the child with both parents. Some parents have concerns about the safety and wellbeing of the…
Towards a new narrative of mediation.
The recent National Mediation Conference was a wonderful opportunity for challenging long held ideas, to move towards innovation and change. This can only happen when exposed to new concepts that promote a different way of thinking and doing. The conference definitely achieved this for me! As mediators and FDRPs we are taught the “classic…
The National Mediation Conference 2016-innovation for a new road map.
In mid September more than 500 participants met at the Gold Coast. Over the five days of the conference, we were presented with many innovative ideas around philosophy, methodology and practice. There was one overriding theme- it was suggested that we take these ideas on board and use them to compare maps, and look at…
Best interests-what is it?
The focus of the Family Law Act in parenting matters is on “the best interests of the child” as the paramount consideration” (s60CA). This notion of “best interests” permeates all legal discussion regarding children and is spoken of as if it is a thing that can be clearly identified, and that everyone who assists parents…
Yoga-more than mindfulness
As I drive away from a week long yoga retreat at Mission Beach, I feel balanced and at peace. I look out at the amazing scenes of nature around me and ponder on how different I feel to the trip from the airport some 7 days ago. I am also nervous to return to the…
Power Talking-the right message, to the intended audience, in the most effective manner.
When we talk to our clients in family law disputes we do so against the backdrop of the relevant legal and social science concepts. We use words and strategies that are familiar to us and we assume that our meaning will be easily understood, so that we can lead our clients down the path we…