Tips for Good Conversation


         Have a Clear and purposeful intention for your conversation

O         Be Open to the other person- try to put any assumptions or judgements to one side

N         Be sensitive to the Non-verbal communication-notice the pitch, volume, pauses and energy in the other person’s speech, pay attention to whether the content of the words match the way these are said

E          Engage with a beginner’s mind, approach with curiousity, positivity and no assumptions as to outcome

R          Resist interrupting- resist falling into habitual patterns of interaction; ensure there is a balance of listening, talking as well as the sharing of ideas

S          Speak the truth- stay connected with what is true for you, be honest and authentic

         Allow pauses- learn to be comfortable with silence and resist the urge to fill any gaps

T          Tune into your body- be aware of your own feelings and bodily sensations

I           Invite a non-judgmental  attitude- avoid a tendency to jump to judge others to be able to see them as they really are

O         Observe the mind’s tendency to drift- if attention wanders come back to the words and physical presence of the other person

N         Notice when you feel emotionally triggered- maintain a sense of your own emotional state.

These ideas are based on the Mindful in May Programme conducted by Dr Elise Bialylew which can be found at

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